We are four women, all from different parts of the country, different backgrounds, different talents and personalities. There are two things, however, that link us together. One, we all like to stick our hands in the clay and get dirty together. Down and dirty and create! Second, and I believe the most important thing, is that we not only love each other, but we all like each other. Now and then I tell a family member "I love you but I don't like you right now." You know, love and like don't always go hand in hand. These three women, however, are my friends and I love them as well as like them.
Friends! This subject is very near and dear to my heart this week. On a loose schedule that was made for us by our social media advisor, I was assigned to write something about "friends". Well, as it turns out, I need to write about friends. On Sunday evening of this week a very close and dear family friend suddenly left us when he had a massive heart attack. I have lost friends and family before, but never so suddenly. My husband and I have been wanting to get with this couple now for several months, but the busy summer kept us pushing that time further into the future.
Now he is gone! He had a very close relationship with my husband, Duane. He called Jerry his "bare-naked buddy". No, Jerry wasn't an exhibitionist. But Duane could share anything with Jerry and Jerry would listen, relate and never judge. Jerry and I had a different relationship all together. I could get mad at him and he would never hold it against me. He'd just grin and I knew he'd be thinking "Get over yourself, little sister!" I loved that man. There never was a time he couldn't make me laugh, even at myself. We had a kindred spirit, I think. Both stubborn and hard headed - opinionated and judgemental. But both of us fiercely love our family and friends and God forbid if anyone ever messes with any of them.
So now, here I am with one less wonderful friend. I am thankful he was in my life and I look forward to the day he welcomes me home. This sudden loss has made me so much more sensitive to all those I am able to still call "friend". I am so glad that the Lady Fingers have started this blog. It enables me to put into writing how much I care for each of them; how much I admire them as strong women of substance; how much I enjoy laughing and crying with them; and what an honor it is to be associated with each of them.
So, for those of you who read this, please take some quiet time and contemplate your relationship with your friends. They are a very important part of you and you to them. Value them, respect them, and above all take frequent friend-breaks and LOVE them.